Thanks for all the tips, success stories, advice, etc...
Alot of it is consistency..which I will sadly admit I dont always follow through with things, which they have picked up on.
Praise does work with my youngest, and he does need more of a routine.
As far as someone asking for their horrendous behaviour..that may have been an extreme choice of words..but you are at your wits end, it feels that way!
Things like jumping on the furniture from one piece to another, crashing into things, wrestling, jumping off the top bunk, spilling things....
Going to their room doesn't work either..we have implemented a quiet time chair in the dining room, by themselves...and it is a minute per their age....
I know we can nip it in the bud....just like i said, takes consistency!
Thanks again