I think a chart will work for you. Just make sure you stick with it. We have five children. Two are Pre Med in college. Three of them we adopted, and are special needs children. They are also on meds. They really had a hard life before we adopted them. When they came here, they changed so much, they thought they didn't have to do anything but play. School was not important because the teachers knew of their abuse and let them get away with anything they wanted. After getting out of Elementary School I had them tested and put in Special Ed. Now they are learning, and are finding out just how important their life is. It was really hard in the begining, as my husband could never tell them no to anything. In their minds, I could buy them anything they wanted, and I should. Not the way things go around here. If you earn it, you get it. So I started a chart, all they really have to do is pick up their messes, you would think it would be easy for them. I do remember when they first came here, my Husband asked our Son if he was happy here, he said "Yes, because I'm not a slave anymore"
Makes me wonder just what all happen to these kids.
At first it wasn't easy, until our Son had to go to the store with us because his Sister earned money. That's when it clicked for him. They had never been given any money of their own, or had clothes bought just for them from a store. They came here with nothing but old clothes that didn't fit, and a few broken toys. I threw everything out and told them lets start over, so off we went shopping. It was lots of fun, but doing it that way, made them think they would just say I want this and get it.
I watched The Nanny and I have to tell you, she has some great tips.
I did the chart, and a timeout chair. I have to be a little easy on them because of their history, but things have changed. We still have back talking, but at least our Daughter has stopped flipping me off. I really couldn't stand it, I'm sorry that is not just a habit.
Sorry I guess I went on & on. There is hope, just hang in there. If I could get past this, I'm sure anyone could. Good Luck to you.
