[msyorktown]

Ok gonna throw in my late night two cents. I'm 55 years old, been married twice...both turned out to be complete a**holes. The first was my kids father...stayed with that man 20 years, and three kids later....the last beating I took from him landed him in jail...no doublt the man would have killed me had I stayed.
Took me a long time to trust any man again....marrieage number 2 knight in shining armour...so I thought. He worked, cleaned the house...I cooked and finished raising MY kids. Found out he was diagnosed with clinical depression....I think wrong diagnosis...more bi-polar....went off at the drop of a hat. Didn't touch me...abused my son.....you got it...I was soooo gone!
So here I am engaged to a wonderful man.... I work full time, the house is mine, all the bills are in my name, but everything is split 50/50....I am the better cook, but he does most of the cooking as I am up and gone by 4am!
Not coming home to cook and clean...yes he does work ...part time.
My kids are grown and gone now, so it is me, him and the yorkies...one of which he bought for me.
I will not tolerate any form of abuse...verbal or physical, he knows this....choses his words very carefully...or risk my mouth! (which can get nasty if i'm pushed too far)
Do not let me come home to a nasty house...best pick up your stuff, trust me if I have to pick up after him, he wont find it...even my kids know this.
I've been known to wake up my kids at 3am to clean the daggone kitchen they messed up after I had cleaned it and gone to bed!
You have to do what is best for you...took me years of abuse to learn this...you are worthy of so much more...Dang you are only 20! I was having the time of my life at that age, while still living at home!
Baby you have not lived yet, please do not settle for any less than you are worth.
A wise old lady told me (my grandmother) a woman's biggest fault is not knowing their worth....know your worth boo...you deserve it.
Tomorrow is not promised, grab your piece of life and live it!