My Rosie uses the top knot pillow too. I highly recommend getting one. Here is a picture with her hair up. I can post one of our pillow too if you would like. I got mine from the same YT member as listed above.
Also, I don't give up either. When we are having casual days, I use scrunchies. That way she is always use to having her hair up.
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