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Originally Posted by yorkietalkjilly  Jacqui, I cannot imagine what you have been through. Reading your posts on this thread are terrifying. I can't believe the lack of justice in your case or imagine how you deal with it all and stay sane and those children of yours, too - how they've made it through all of this. Your story is certainly shocking and so scary and how you have kept yourself together and gone on in life is remarkable. You are one strong lady, I can tell from your words. I hope that you have found some peace and happiness since all the horror. The Lord has surely been with you through some of the worst this world has to offer. Thank you for sharing and helping others to understand, confront and vote for those who believe in strong laws/punishment for any kind of domestic abuse. |
Thank you so much Jeanie, for your kind words. There were many days...so many days when I wanted to say screw this!!!! Enough already, I cant take any more...then during those dark times I remembered ...The Lord does not give you more than you can bare. Prayer and the fact that I was all my kids had left of their family, that saw me through. I had to keep it together...my kids, my little rocks! I picked myself up, dusted off and kept going...it wasn't easy, please dont ever think that, it was real tough. I had no time to think about me...I had three young ones depending on me, I had to survive and so did they, it was me and them against the world...I had my friends, certain members of my family (not all were supportive) and a wonderful support group.
Many do not understand the ramifications of Domestic Violence...it leaves your self esteem in taters, it destroys all trust in your fellow human beings, it leaves you scared for life and always always leary of new relationships.
I have grown and with extensive counselling for myself and my children we have learned to trust again....it was a long hard road, we persevered and all my children (dispite the trauma) are well rounded young adults.
My daughter is now a nurse, both my boys are in college/university...one studying music, the other going for his bachelors in communication, minor in psycology. Not to toot my own horn, but I did good! I am so proud to have come out of the hell of my past life with my sanity intact (most days)
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Tracy with the help and support of you and your church your friend will come through this ...it will get better I promise. I wont lie and tell you it will be easy...it will most certainly will NOT. It will be a very rough road, just hang on tight and be prepared. Be patient, when she is ready to talk she will, she may feel she is alone at times, assure her she is not.
Domestic Violence victims all too often suffer in silence, and always with dire consequences. She will tap into your strengh Tracy, I did, it was all i had to get through the days...just knowing someone cared what happened to me....I kept quiet for fear of my life, one of his charges was uttering a death threat...still just 6mths!
Urghh!!! Hearing about someone so close to home so to speak angers me beyond measure...I so wish I lived closer to you, offer some help, anything for her to get through this. My heart just breaks for all involved, especially those poor babies...Dear Lord please wrap this family in your loving embrace, they so need your guidance and comfort. God Bless you Tracy.