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Claire · 01-28-2006, 07:14 PM

Today my daughter said dada, and I repeated it, and Graice went nuts. She wined for a good 45 minutes.
In March, my husband left us abruptly. I woke up, found a note that he had left us and that was it. The same day Gracie got violently ill and had to be hospitlized. For the two months before we moved, she waited for him, everyday, in the same spot. If she heard a noise, she thought it was him and would go crazy. Every night before going to bed, she checked his side of the bed and and did the same every morning. I finally gave her his pillow and she still sleeps on it everyday (it has been washed plenty of times). She slept with one of his shirts for a while before I snuck it away from her.
He showed up at our doorstep in July. Gracie saw him through the window and almost busted through it. He came by almost everyday for 2 months. (I was 7 months pregnant when he left). He evacuated with us for Katrina and when we got back he left again and we have not seen him since. Gracie seems to be still mourning him. How long does it take for them to get over a loss? She was 10 months old when he left the first time, they had an unbelieveable bond. He brushed her everyday and gave her people food when I was not looking. They took naps together almost everyday, he would lay on his side and she would curl up against his bare chest. They loved each other so much and then poof, he was out of her life. She seems to be still be waiting for him. It breaks my heart. He will never be in her life again, ever, not even for a visit.
How do I even begin to help her heal? What can I do or say to her? Any advice is greatly apreciated...

01-28-2006, 07:14 PM	#1
Claire YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Louisiana Posts: 484	How long does it take for them to get over a loss? Today my daughter said dada, and I repeated it, and Graice went nuts. She wined for a good 45 minutes. In March, my husband left us abruptly. I woke up, found a note that he had left us and that was it. The same day Gracie got violently ill and had to be hospitlized. For the two months before we moved, she waited for him, everyday, in the same spot. If she heard a noise, she thought it was him and would go crazy. Every night before going to bed, she checked his side of the bed and and did the same every morning. I finally gave her his pillow and she still sleeps on it everyday (it has been washed plenty of times). She slept with one of his shirts for a while before I snuck it away from her. He showed up at our doorstep in July. Gracie saw him through the window and almost busted through it. He came by almost everyday for 2 months. (I was 7 months pregnant when he left). He evacuated with us for Katrina and when we got back he left again and we have not seen him since. Gracie seems to be still mourning him. How long does it take for them to get over a loss? She was 10 months old when he left the first time, they had an unbelieveable bond. He brushed her everyday and gave her people food when I was not looking. They took naps together almost everyday, he would lay on his side and she would curl up against his bare chest. They loved each other so much and then poof, he was out of her life. She seems to be still be waiting for him. It breaks my heart. He will never be in her life again, ever, not even for a visit. How do I even begin to help her heal? What can I do or say to her? Any advice is greatly apreciated...