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Originally Posted by lynzy420  When an elder says something to me that bothers me, I immediately, with a smile say EXCUSE ME? If she dares repeat it say to her "Mrs. Smith, I really wish you wouldn't say that to me everytime I see you"...usually they are speechless, offer an excuse or even apologize...for the odd bird that doesn't quite get it...I would just say "thanks for your opinion".....usually, not always, but usually one or the other works...
I for one can't disrespect an elder, I just can't...not going to happen no matter what. The things above are as close as I get to that... |
I agree if the person is really old & doddery, ill or just out of it, but if they are just a bully, they probably always have been a bully & can honestly & forthrightly be faced with who they are without disrespecting them. Using the "old" card on her, telling her she has really aged lately, would be disrespecting and dishonoring her but not just forthrightly talking to her about what pain she is causing and letting her know it won't be further permitted. An old person should not use their age as a license to hurt and slam a person. All people should be respected and not bullied like she is bullying OP & making her feel bad.