broodzit
I really feel for you. It is truly sad that you have no support from 'the powers that be' The man has dementia, but that doesn't make him incompetent??? So please tell me what does it take to be incompetent...does he have to hurt himself, or someone else before this happens??
This whole thing is just heartbreaking. And it makes me angry as well, not at you...I dont even know who to get mad at!!
So frustrating, i really hope you can find some kind of help, somehow, someway.
I'm sorry you are going through this, wish i could be of more help..

Jacqui