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Originally Posted by broodizt

msyorktown:

Everything you said above is right on, you have him pegged!!! You're right, the POA is really useless unless the person goes along with you as their decision maker, is too out of it to fight you on it, or is comatose or on a vent or something. If your family member does not fight you, and accepts you as the decision maker, then you can take control, but if the person fights you on it, and wants to maintain their own control, they have that right legally. This is the insane part. I have been told time and time again "having dementia does not make you incompetent". Well then, what on earth does????? Goodness, what does a person have to do to before they are deemed incompetent? One thing though, I need to clear up. I have been caring for my dad for three years, not ten. My mom passed away three years ago. But these 3 years have seemed like a lifetime, believe me. I am doing it all myself with no family or friends around to help. My dearest sister died 7 years ago, and when I lost her, I lost my world. That is why my babies are so important to me. They are my fur babies and they mean everything to me. The whole situation really reeks!!!

We were told that with my dad to and I like you do not understand what it means if not losing a part of your mind. He would have days where if the doors were not locked he would go out to get the paper in the nude (or try to) thank goodness we always caught him in time. My dad was the most modest person in the world before this horrible disease. I am so sorry you are going through this. I know how awful it is for you. Sending prayers your way.