"It sounds like your dad is very capable of persuading people also. You need to either call or write to his primary care physician and tell him the facts. Let him/her know that you are alarmed that your father has been allowed to continue to drive considering the health issues he has been through and his present condition. If you let them know that you have observed actions or symptoms that could endanger him or someone else(especially while driving) they will change their attitude quickly. When a family member gets involved things get taken care of. Physicians are only human and can be intimidated by people with personalities like your father's just as others are. There are a huge amount of motor vehicle accident caused by elderly drivers. My brother was afraid to let his pregnant wife drive in the area of Florida they lived in because of the number of elderly drivers on the road. They get thinking about other things and end up causing terrible accidents."
Gracielove, my father is no longer driving a car, because of the letter I wrote them in private, begging them to stop giving him chances to take and retake the test ad infinitum, not because of his doctors, because I did everything you said above, and they did not change their attitude at all. Their allegiance is to their patient, not the family, and especially not the children. They do not want to anger, lose or alienate a patient, and will absolutely not write to the DMV to tell them they don't want my father driving. I found out the hard way, I am very sorry to say. And as I posted in another message, these doctors are the best doctors in the business, some of them are famous and are celebrated, so I don't want him to switch doctors. I want him to have the very best, and he does, so switching is not an option or else I would get him other doctors and try with a new set of doctors. But I will not compromise his health like that. So I am meeting brick walls wherever I turn. It turns out to be very complicated in this society. I am losing my will to continue fighting with him and trying to protect him, now, from these women who are on him like flies. I am thinking if he wants to go to my mothers friend so much on the east coast, maybe I should just let him go. I know my mothers wishes were that he live with me and have me care for him, but I am only a human being. I can only take so much. Maybe I will be able to find someone that I would feel really really safe in leaving my babies with, and that would solve at least one problem. It's not an easy life. Sigh. Thank you all so much for your support and caring, it is the only support I have ever gotten in this situation. It means so much to me. Thank you so much again.
Shellie |