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Originally Posted by broodizt  He has no living siblings. Many of my mothers friends are just dying to go with him. They want to convince him to be their husband or partner and live with them back east. They want a man. They would be doing it for themselves and not for him. When I spoke to one of my mothers friends she interrogated me as to whether or not he is seeing anyone or has a girlfriend, and does he really like her. Several times that I spoke with her I have told her over and over again that the man has dementia. She yes's me to death, but refuses to believe me, calls him constantly, and lets my father sweet talk her into thinking he is in love with her. Then she writes him letters about letting her prove her love to him. She refuses to accept that he has dementia although she says she understands when I talk to her, and then goes on undaunted pursing an affair with my father. It's nuts. Do these women sound like good people to leave him with???? |
I don't get it..
What is wrong with people???
So from what I gather even having POA...Its useless?? So why even have it?? And you do have power of attorney over his finances? But that still gives you no control?? You are the one that has been watching/caring for him for what 10 years now?? And the doctors wont listen to you??
This is soo frustrating!! If he is so unhappy with you, for me personally I would be saying 'fine then go'. I know this isn't what you wanted to hear, but what else can you do? You have no recourse but to let him do what he wants to do. There is no way you can leave your babies with just anyone just to suit one of his whims. He's been travelling thus far all over the world..what more does he want.
Seems he's really manipulative with everyone around him. That with vultures circling...just waiting to snap him up.
He's lucky to have had you for this long, putting up this. Hunny you have a life to live as well...your first priority should be YOU, and your babies. Sorry not your father. I think it is time to live your life for yourself, instead of worrying yourself sick for someone who is unwilling to at least compromise. Sweetie stress can really do a number on your health...what happens if you now become ill?? What happens then.
He's being very selfish, in expecting you to leave the girls, one with AAI to boot. You have to do what is best for you, no one else, just you.
You have done all you can for him thus far, its time for you now.