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Originally Posted by MikaTallulah  Just read all the posts. It seems like a family meeting with you, DH, DD,and her BF is in order. That way you can all say what is and is not expected from on another. I would put the house rules in writing and everyone needs to abide by them. Specifically spell out what is expected. If he has said you are more a mom to him than his own mom he would be more respectful of you and your stuff than he is. They same goes for your daughter- She knows you probably blame yourself for her illness and is using this against you.
If her therapist thinks this living arrangement if best than maybe the family meeting should take place at their office  . Let them see what you are going through |
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was respectful I even once overheard him say to another kid this is Tinas house if she says jump you ask how high lol. I believe what is happening is he has assumed an equality that doesnt exsist. He has perceived the money they give us to constitute rent with all of the rights attached. He needs a reality check. As far as my DD's illness she has never blamed me. She said that if life outside of home was half as good as at home she would be the healthiest kid on the planet. She has done nothing but thank me and even said that if it were not for me she would never have survived. We are very close. This situtation took us by surprise. It has only been the past couple of weeks that we have been having any trouble.
Her therapist is great and yes has expected so much of me he has admitted too much. I quit a job I loved and spent every minute of every day monitoring her for almost 2 years when she was ill. The financial and emotional costs were high but much to the medical communities surprise she not only survived but now has a job and is doing well. So yep we really are going through it but when I chose to become a mom I made a promise to put the needs of my girls ahead of mine and I may be one exhausted stressed out mom but I am thankful that she is recovering.
Thanks for responding and taking the time to offer your advice I am so grateful to you and everyone else