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Old 07-30-2012, 08:09 PM   #7
yorkietalkjilly
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Everyone who has lost a dog through illness feels pretty much as you feel and when vets are less than perfect when treating them or make frank mistakes in treatment, it just adds to the pain of the loss and second guessing, constant guilty feelings and the sense we failed them. All those feelings can be completely normal and even expected. Go ahead and process your pain in your way, at your rate. Grieve and doubt yourself and the veterinary process. It is part of what humans deal with and must often work through when a beloved family member is tragically gone. In time your healing will come, intense grief end, doubt and guilt subside into sweet memories and smiles as thoughts of Ace stop being so raw and become golden, dear. Until that time, if your pain is severe or obsessive or your life far too grim, some grief counseling will see you through the worst times and help. There are many petloss support groups around and other, understanding people there to talk it out with on your toughest days and nights. Writing a poem to Ace, finding and planting a Memorial Tree and helping out at your local shelter can help also. Keeping busy is key so that you don't fall into depression as you wait to heal. I pray you find some relief soon as intense grieving and stress can be so harmful to your health.
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