[yorkietalkjilly]

I'll have to say that young man would have been out of my home on his rear end upon finding he had locked me out of any portion of it - even a closet! And daughter would have to like it - or not. But anyone living under my roof abides by my rules and mores or they simply are unwelcome. I cannot imagine even a person that young doesn't know any better than to treat you like that.

My sister and her husband tried something like this to help her daughter's BF and it turned out with hard feelings and pain and misery all around and they finally had to boot the young man, the two subsequently married and for a short while things were okay but, yes, it ended in divorce, with the young man leaving the daughter with over $50,000.00 in credit card charges he'd put on the credit card before he left her with cancer and two young children, no insurance! He used my sister and BIL's kindness to simply wipe his boots on, used their daughter and turned her against them, left her life in tatters and hurt everyone he touched.

I have yet to know a single person who dealt with anyone like this where it didn't end badly. Zebras develop their stripes pretty early and though from a distance may look like a regular horse, they are still Zebras - wild, unpredictable and rarely tamed.