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Originally Posted by McheleM  I'm the opposite. I'm the parent who does not want someone else disciplining my children, so I would be upset if you did. I would expect you to come to me and then I would discipline my children myself.
I don't discipline my brothers kids, nor do I discipline my grandson when his dad and my daughter are around, only when they are in my care. We also don't use the word no. We use positive reinforcements and time outs. I don't believe in hitting kids (I was abused as a child) and therefore my kids have never learned to hit. I do believe that is a learned behavior, and I cringe when I see parents smack their child and then tell them "we don't hit". My children have always been very well behaved and very well mannered. I had no qualms about canceling my dinner order and leaving a restaurant or walking out of a store if they were acting like brats. They knew what was expected and knew that there would be consequences for misbehavior. My grandson is learning slowly that he can't do certain things when at Mimzi's house like he can at home, because we have dogs and other rules, but I always let his dad and my daughter be his parents-never me. |
I agree with Michele. I would be most upset if someone struck my child or placed him in time out; whatever - unless they had the authority to do so.
And NO ONE has the authority to strike my child. Come and tell me and I will handle the situation.
I will never forget and my son will never forget one Thanksgiving when his hot-headed (but much beloved) Italian Uncle was over for dinner. Matt and his daughter were coming down the steps and his daughter tripped. He IMMEDIATELY began screaming at the top of his lungs at my son to GET DOWN HERE . . . and so on and so forth. My son was not used to that kind of anger and yelling and burst into tears. I had to ask Uncle to leave my house because I didn't know what he was capable of.
Though - everyone eventually made up - my son has never forgotten how someone jumped to conclusions and was ready to 'discipline' him. With me standing right there!
No way will that EVER happen