Good advice is always welcome-ALWAYS.
But alot of the time,whilst some people think that they are educating others and being helpful,what they´re doing is being judgemental and basiclly calling them idiots (beleive me,this is how it comes across)
Anyone who has seen a video or read about BYB,puppyills etc is NEVER going to support that kind of thing-NEVER,so coming down on a new owner like a ton of bricks because they have made a mistake that stems from inocent ignorance is not fair.Infact,most of the time,these people feel offended and insulted and they dont come back,so where do they go for help now? kwim?
Example..lets say a person joins and seems to have purchaised puppy from a breeder with a bad reputation.She joins,asks a few questions,mentions the background of her puppy and then BAM,suddenly she´s being attacked and acused of aiding puppymills and supporting BYB...
What exactly do we expect of this person? To give her puppy back? Leave? Take the judging and finger pointing with a pinch of salt? Shall we make her stand in a corner?
Lets face it,once she has her puppy,has fallen inlove with it,lets give her the advice she needs shall we? She made a mistake? Yes! Should we explain why? Yes.But that doesnt mean she has to face post after post of people telling her that she should of done her homework,that she did a terrible thing etc..Im sorry but I dont think thats OK.
There are many ways to get a message across without making someone feel so unwelcome
You (in general) care and want to advocate for the puppies,but remember,people who buy a yorkie do it because they love the breed too
We all love and advocate for the puppies..everyone who is already here and those who join-All of us.No one buys a puppy and doesnt care.Some people dont start reading about their pup until they buy it,that´s all,and we cant exactly shoot them down for that.I have three kids and I´ve never picked up a book..yet here they are (15,12 and 3 years old)..go figure
To the bolded part fo your post,I asure you that no one comes onto a forum like this expecting everyone else to applaud their desitions,but I dont think they expect to be so harshly judged either,and I hate to think they leave and havent gotten the advice or help they needed to make their puppys life more comfortable kwim?
