Chelstu1: In a marriage it is not about who is right and who is wrong. It is about what you can agree on. There will be MANY things that you do not agree on and you will just have to agree to disagree.
If you do not want his brother making payments to you,tell him why and leave it at that. If his brother doesnt ever give you a dime,the one thing that your husband will learn is to listen to the councel of his wife.
It does not matter who is right and wrong between your brother and grandfather,that is not your concern because you can not fix it. Giving a roof to your brother and his kids is a loving and kind thing,but remember that your marriage and the relationship with your husband is first. Do not allow others to come between you and your husband.
In 32yrs there have been so many things that we have not agreed on,but the one thing that we are both committed to is that our marriage,our relationship comes first. That is before my mother in law,before our children,before the bills and money concerns.
I hope for you a relationship and marriage that only become stronger everyday and that you will get to look back in 30 + years and say " Look at all of the hurdles that we have jumped over and our love and friendship is stronger today than when we started". Blessings |