OMG.....I feel for you being in this situation. I myself am divorced and remarried and my ex is one heck of a jack#**. He would spend his parent's last dime to fight me. I know in our divorce decree that neither one of us is allowed to move out of state without going through the proper procedures (meaning the courts........yes that includes attorney's) and then there are no guarantees that the court will agree. Thank goodness my current husband's children also live here and I know he wouldn't be able to leave them for a job transfer so I won't have to deal with that. Just with my dealings with the courts and the attorney's, the court honestly doesn't care what your reasons or justifications are. They are siding with the father a lot more these days. Which I guess is good for those father's who actually want to participate in their children's lives. Man, I have a feeling this is going to be a long battle for you. If your ex hasn't cooperated now, I don't think it will matter what letter you send him........he isn't going to cooperate then. I agree about contacting an attorney. I would do it before I send the letter. The only thing about that letter is that your ex might find a way to use it against you and then it will come back to bite you on the butt. It is sad to have to think in such a nasty way but it might save you in the end. Just cover all your bases and try not to give him any chance to file a contempt charge on you. The court sees those in a negative way also. It seems to be "points" against you. I honestly hope things work out for you. I do understand a lot of the things the others are saying. My son (who is 10) seems to have a strong relationship with his dad and still views my husband "as the other man, the step-father" and I know for a fact that if it were me........he would chose (if not insist, throw a temper-tantrum, one hell of a hissy fit) to stay with his father. That would devestate me in itself!!!!!!
I hope I haven't upset you or offended you. That definitely wasn't my intentions. Best of luck!!!! |