I know this has to be a very difficult situation for all involved. It is sad and there are sooo many sides. If it were my child I couldn't leave him behind nor only visit monthly and doubt I could afford it..on the other hand that is his dad and visits are different from "growing up" with. I know, been there done that. I was 32 yr old before I began to form a real daughter/father relationship with my dad...and I resented both my mom and dad for it. There are no winners in these situations. If the shoe were on the other foot, would you sacrifice seeing your child to enhance your ex's finances?
I doubt the courts would look at schools, crime, etc. as you can always find somewhere that has better schools, less crime, etc. JMO, offering a point of view, I hope you can get this worked out for everyone's sake. |