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Originally Posted by yorkietalkjilly

I don't believe that every woman that dresses scantily for a social occasion or goes to a man's hotel room with him is asking for rape but she is taking a chance, given the world we live in today. Therefore, she has to bear some of the responsibility for her actions when interacting with men in how she dresses and what she does just in case she runs into or attracts the attention of the wrong type of man. We can't just dress or do whatever we would like and hope that nothing goes wrong - not in this world today.

Women that dress scantily to go out for the evening or go out with utter strangers have got to get with the reality of the world we live now! There are some real mouth-breathing, knuckle-dragging, testosterone-packed monsters out there(read the crime stories in the newspaper and magazines for a while and see) who live in a world of pornography, drugs and violence and have a most-distorted picture of women in general. And most of the women they see in that world dress scantily or less and really are "asking for it" for money. Plus, apparently a lot of young men drink a lot and take a lot of drugs, including steroids and testosterone, which lessens or destroys inhibitions, increases aggression and risk-taking, which males comes by naturally anyway. Should it be that way? Should women have to live and dress thinking about their safety and well-being all of the time? NO!!!!!! But it is thatway! I think that a woman has to realize that when she lives in a society today where a whole lot of men are far less than the ideal, due to steroids, alcohol and drugs, changing social roles and mores(have you seen or read how men treat women in many of today's movies, books and on television?!?!), and with 24/7 pornography, she has to do everything she can to try to stay safe and try not to attract the attention of the type of man she wants nothing to do with. So I don't believe a woman is responsibility-free to just do whatever she wants when out in the world today and then act shocked when something terrible happens to her.

This has nothing to do with the OP's original post about her friend and is addressing only the issue of whether or not a woman should be able to dress or go anywhere with a man and expect and have the right to be safe as was addressed in some later posts. I've seen women on TV rail on this subject endlessly about their rights to do whatever they want whenever they want and nobody should hold them one bit responsible for some male's response to that. They get red in the face and pound home the point of their rights. Well, of course, in a perfect world, women should - I'm the first to say we should have a right to total safety - but that is just not reality and the sooner more women realize what can happen with some of the scary/crazed men out there, the safer they will be.

I agree you have to be realistic to what society is today and yes there are Men out there up to no good so why intice them. It is also a matter of having some self respect and self worth. And that comes from the inside not the outside.