I understand that you are trying to be an obedient,kind and loving wife. However there is another side to that coin,,,being a gentle,kind and loving husband,putting the needs of your chosen mate above yourself.
A bit more than 10yrs ago I wanted a dog,husband didnt want another dog in the house. We had and still have a large dog. I told him that my heart had a need to love something that was entirely mine. Someone that was MY lil friend and that I wanted a dog. I also explained as nicely as I could that I wasnt asking his permission,that I had a need that was not being filled,that it had nothing to do with him. There is a part of your heart that belongs to your dog that noone else can understand. I wasnt asking for him to understand how I felt,I was asking for him to honor my wishes as I have always tried to honor his. He asked that I look at the pound and I did. I did not find my new friend there. I continued my search and found a tiny,male poodle. His name was "Kings Spunkey Bunkey" and he passed away last march at the age of 9. That is how I ended up here on YT and found Mina. I still miss Bunkey and can even tell Mina about him,because I can say anything to her. My husband realizing how much Bunkey ment to me and insisted that I get a new friend and he is as in love with Mina as I am.
I pray that your husbands heart will soften towards your need and that if you do get that special little friend that both of the men in your life will see the joy that it brings. |