Is this your maternal grandmother? I'm sure she's got a whole host of separate issues with regard to her daughter.
I'd recommend setting some boundaries there. There's this famous psychiatrist Harriett Lerner (she wrote all the "Dance of... " books, have you heard of those?) who claims that difficult relationships are often managed in triangles. Ie, your grandmother plays the peacemaker between you and your mother, which helps her avoid her own anxiety over the situation.
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