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Originally Posted by deonk1  Thanks, yes I need to find myself a hobby (or more like return to them) I do agility; however, with Harley being so sick these last 3 months I haven't taken him nor have I talked to the dog ppl much. Tomorrow we have a holiday dinner with the group, I'm looking forward to it. The vet has almost cleared Harley for mild training, and I paid (more like bartered) some lessons with my trainer in exchange for lobster (:P figured I'd throw that in on a more pleasant note), so that'll most definitely get my mind off things. And today I bought some running gear at lululemon so that I cannot use snow and crappy weather as an excuse to not run. I probably should have went for a run this morning when I felt like crap.
I'm a real people pleaser, and I definitely need to work on that.
Am I being childish if I refuse to speak to her until she starts getting help? Do I call her and tell her that? Or have someone deliver the message? or do I just ignore it? I really am tired of drunken phone calls and her assuming I'm going to do everything for her just cause she demands it. |
I really believe you need to distance yourself, as someone else suggested. It is upsetting your life and affecting you too much and I think a timeout for yourself is a good idea. That, of course, is your decision. It sounds to me as though she is taking a huge toll on your quality of life and you have your own life to lead and a future that only you can determine. She can't be a part of that future unless you allow it.