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Originally Posted by My lil friend  I hope that time with your friend will help. You also will need to make some choises for YOU. You can not fix your mom (I grew up in a house with a mother that was very mentally ill with no meds),you can however make some choises for you. Retail theropy is ok,but as you have figured out,it is very temporary. There are other things to choose from that have helped me (the gym,singing). I currently take dance lessons where I get to work on me and I get to visit with some of the other girls. My class ranges in age from 54 to 18.
As sad as it is,you may need to distance yourself from your mother for a time in order to protect yourself.
A friend once told me that joy does not just fall in your lap,you must seek it. Sometimes giving joy to others (random acts of kindness) blesses you more.
I will keep you in my thoughts. May you find joy and be able to built your own life that brings you fullfillment and purpose. |
Thanks, yes I need to find myself a hobby (or more like return to them) I do agility; however, with Harley being so sick these last 3 months I haven't taken him nor have I talked to the dog ppl much. Tomorrow we have a holiday dinner with the group, I'm looking forward to it. The vet has almost cleared Harley for mild training, and I paid (more like bartered) some lessons with my trainer in exchange for lobster (:P figured I'd throw that in on a more pleasant note), so that'll most definitely get my mind off things. And today I bought some running gear at lululemon so that I cannot use snow and crappy weather as an excuse to not run. I probably should have went for a run this morning when I felt like crap.
I'm a real people pleaser, and I definitely need to work on that.
Am I being childish if I refuse to speak to her until she starts getting help? Do I call her and tell her that? Or have someone deliver the message? or do I just ignore it? I really am tired of drunken phone calls and her assuming I'm going to do everything for her just cause she demands it.