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Originally Posted by chattiesmom  Often, when people "ask for advice" they are really asking for approval and/or support for things they already are doing, believe to be true, or want to happen.
When they encounter advice that is contrary to what they want to hear, it makes them feel violated - especially if that advice isn't given in a nurturig manner. As frustrating as it is, I find it much better to bite my tounge and go that extra mile to try to give suggestions and advice in a non threatening manner which will not offend the receiver. Sometimes that is nearly impossible.  |
WELL SAID! I too believe this is why people act this way! They already have their opinion set, they r just looking for validation. When they don't get their ideas reinforced, nice or not, they r all offended. Sorry, but like another poster said, if you don't want my advice, don't ask. Any reasonable, intelligent person should know that opinons and advice are going to differ from their own SOMETIMES, and accept that their own beliefs CAN be wrong ones at times. Since this doesn't seem to happen much, I try to give polite, unoffending advice for the sake of the pet.
