FIDebra: The child I am talking about is not my biological son. He is not my husbands biological son, but he is our son because we raise him as ours. He is the biological child of my husbands ex wife and the half brother to my husbands other children and now my daughters stepbrother. Yes, I am left out of the picture a lot because of my husband or maybe his ex's wishes?? I really don't know, but that doesn't mean I don't still try to parent when I can. I DO love them all. No offense but I didn't even bother reading the whole thing, along with some of the other's going on about how this is "my biological" son that I haven't bonded with. It really seems like my original post was taken completely out of context the more people were replying. Almost as if, they weren't even reading the original but only the false assumptions of what others were posting.
Everyone: I think communication by writing never comes out the way it is intended. I do love all my kids, but the youngest is by far the most challenging. YES, I do have issues with my husband backing me up at times and HE (my husband) is the one who does not want to attend counceling. Therefore, the counceling has nothing to do with money. We have joint custody of the kids, which means they are not here everyday. We have no legal rights to the youngest bc again, he is not biologically my husbands and there was never an adoption that took place.
The breeders who gave us Mia, were wonderful people who even prayed over her before administering her 2nd set of shots and blessing her into our home. Several people on here have admitted to having small dogs and small children. That is just something everyone will disagree on. Again, I did not know that my stepson was going to be a problem with the puppy because I discussed the details to my husband and he seemed on board to help keep Mia safe.
I spoke with my husband a few nights ago about wether or not this relationship is even working anymore. He is now trying to help keep my rules and wishes with mia at this point. Believe it or not, I AM with her every minute unless at work and the kids are at school. She goes everywhere with me when I go anywhere, but we are home a lot so she can play and run and just be a happy puppy. When my stepson is here, I allow him to help with her but never to be alone with her AND never to pick her up. He seems to be acknowledging that this is just the way it is or he will not be allowed to play with her at all! So far, so good!
The kids have 2 other animals, a golden retriever and a cat, so they are not deprived of having animals that they can play with that are not as fragile as Mia. My golden is an angel with Mia and although Mia just loves our kitty, Bo could care less about her.
Mia is adjusting very well. She loves the kids, but I can tell when she is ready for relax time too and I tell the kids to let her rest and they can play again later. She seems very happy. I have had her less than 4 weeks and she is already going to the door when she needs outside...we rarely... RARELY have accidents!!! That is how close I watch this puppy. My children get plenty of attention from me, I am always here for any of them and they know that. They all love Mia and with the acception of the youngest, they all respect my rules. But my husband and my stepson are getting better over this past week. Please pray it stays this way.
I will continue to struggle with my stepson as he is very challenging but so far I am still here trying. How long I stay depends on my husband at this point. Maybe things will get better, if not, then I will take Mia and my daughter and leave. It's really out of my hands if I'm the only one trying. It does take 2!!!
I am greatful for the advice, it is very helpful. I'm sorry to those of you who missunderstood what I was trying to communicate and I will look past the harsh comments that some people made out of concern for the child or the yorkie. I realize this is a forum where people are able to place there own comments and I respect that.
Now... I also hope that I have not offended anyone. Although I am greatful for the advice, I'm starting to realize that I should have kept my question to myself because it has spun in to something more than what I was even asking. Thanks again for all your thoughts, posts, concerns, advice and opinions (well maybe not all your opinions, lol). |