[BigBlueNation]

Hello everyone,

Let me start by explaining my problems and hopefully any advice given will be appreciated. To begin, my girlfriend of a year and a half has a 7 year old, 4 lb teacup Yorkie named Bailey. When we first began dating, I noticed that his behavior was completely out of control. Bailey was treated like a toy for the first 4 years of his life. Wherever my girlfriend went, Bailey went too. Then my girlfriend moved into a new place with a new roommate. Over the next 2 years, Bailey was given free reign in the house to do whatever he pleased. This includes, but is not limited to, peeing in the house, barking at everyone coming and going, pooping in the house, chewing furniture and doors, etc. Both my girlfriend and her roommate had very hectic hours, so Bailey was left to roam the house unattended. He has never been crated, or disciplined for that matter. As you can imagine, he developed some seriously bad habits. Once I started dating my girlfriend, after about 2 months I started to discipline the dog for peeing and pooping in the house. He was told no for barking. He has learned that he is not allowed upstairs by himself. Etc. Her roommate moved out and we started to make very serious accomplishments towards his behavior. We still cannot have people over to the house, because his erratic behavior is so embarrassing. But we did make headway on other misbehavior. That being said, here's where the story takes a turn.

I moved into the house about 2 weeks ago, and since then, Bailey has regressed at an amazing rate, while also developing new habits. Now, as soon as my girlfriend leaves the house, his separation anxiety is tremendous. He will literally sit and tremble while staring at me. He has actually gone into seizures during one of these episodes. He also will not go to the bathroom outside. He just runs around and stares at me. As soon as we enter the house and I turn my back, he will pee and poop. When anyone comes in the house, its like a jail break. If he can't make it to the door, he is trying to climb up the person's leg whose entering the house. Lastly, he now whines at the edge of the bed multiple times during the night. When we awake, he is just staring at us. If we take him outside, he doesn't do his business. This is happening multiple times a night. I can't understand why this is happening. Is it because I am a dominate male who will correct his bad behavior? Have I literally scared him into hating me? While I am not proud of it, I will admit, I have lost my temper with him on more than a handful of occasions.

I grew up with very obedient and smart dogs, mostly German Shepherds. I am at a complete loss on where to go from here and I am seriously starting to doubt this relationship can last while the dog is in the picture. My hatred and frustration with this dog is leading to some very serious problems. Any advice anyone could give, I would greatly appreciate it.