I have a hard time with this, I am a people pleaser..to much so. My childhood was not stable so I think I am that way because I want pease..hate conflict.
There are two thoughts I would like to add.
Sometimes it isn't so much what people think of me, because I agree sometime negative people are going to think poor of you no matter what, but you have to stand up for your self. I have an in- law that I have "stood up to" and refuse to be around. There are family members who put me down for this, but I had enough. If the family can't understand or doesn't support me... Oh well.
The other point.. What do you want to be remembered for. I work hard to be "happy" and pleasant. I really don't care what if people agree with me but I know I Want to be remembered for being kind and helpful-- a giver not a taker! I will stand up for my values.. But I want to be a kind person of integrity .. That is what we all need to think about more than pleasing people, what are our values and what do we want to be remembered for?
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