[AmandaG]

I have never owned a male, but a lot of people here actually claim their males are less aggressive than their females. As for lifting their legs, some males do, and some don't. Many members here have found that problem easily solved by using "belly bands." If you go to search at the top of this site, and type in belly bands, I think you will find a lot of helpful information. Many members here also claim that males and females are a better mix than females and females. Ultimately it is up to you and your wants, but it sounds like a male could be right for you.