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Twitterpate · 05-28-2011, 07:51 AM

@107barney

Awesome post. You are correct. I have seen posts on here that get very passionate about the welfare of the dogs, and could come across as heavy-handed...BUT I have never seen an "I told you so" post. Once the purchase is finalized and the member comes here asking for help, I have ALWAYS seen the group rally around that member and offer alot of informational help for the new member to choose from.

For those that may be sensitive to what seem to be disagreeable posts, I use this analogy that my father-in-law just gave to my husband, his son of 48 yrs (yes, it took that long for him to explain his own "heavy-handed advice".

"Son, when I tell you something that makes you feel like I think you're an idiot, that is not my intent. I don't always handle the delivery real well, but I'm trying to give you the experience of 72 yrs in doing what I do. The reason I tell you something is not because I am smarter than you, it's because I MADE that mistake already, and suffered the consequences...I'm just trying to save you the time it takes to correct it."

It was one of the greatest conversations I think I have ever witnessed...and it holds true for a lot of situations.

~Twitterpate

05-28-2011, 07:51 AM	#139
Twitterpate Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: NC Posts: 39	@107barney Awesome post. You are correct. I have seen posts on here that get very passionate about the welfare of the dogs, and could come across as heavy-handed...BUT I have never seen an "I told you so" post. Once the purchase is finalized and the member comes here asking for help, I have ALWAYS seen the group rally around that member and offer alot of informational help for the new member to choose from. For those that may be sensitive to what seem to be disagreeable posts, I use this analogy that my father-in-law just gave to my husband, his son of 48 yrs (yes, it took that long for him to explain his own "heavy-handed advice". "Son, when I tell you something that makes you feel like I think you're an idiot, that is not my intent. I don't always handle the delivery real well, but I'm trying to give you the experience of 72 yrs in doing what I do. The reason I tell you something is not because I am smarter than you, it's because I MADE that mistake already, and suffered the consequences...I'm just trying to save you the time it takes to correct it." It was one of the greatest conversations I think I have ever witnessed...and it holds true for a lot of situations. ~Twitterpate __________________ Mom to Nemo and Willow, my personal heating pads with fur.