I personally think it's very inappropriate, even kinda tacky, for her to ask friends to help pay for her wedding. If it's going to cost so much that they can't afford it, they need to scale it back. That said, if you feel that you just have to help out in some way, and if it's a decent dress, sell the dress and shrug from the first/cancelled wedding on craigslist and give her the money from that. Tell her you'd be happy to donate time to help organize, set up, run errands, etc. instead of giving her cash. Above all, be honest with her. She's your friend and she should understand that not everyone is in a position where they've got extra cash to spend on someone else's wedding. |