I am so sorry that your older daughters are treating you this way. I feel for you and understand how much it hurts. I have 5 children, but sometimes it feels like my 3 oldest children just don't care. I was married to an angry man (their father) who was always verbally abusive and often physically abusive. He was even arrested and jailed for several months after one particularly bad episode. I stayed with him for my kids, I tried to keep our family together for them, I worked to support us while he stayed home. I finally left for ME, and for them, I wanted to have a new beginning and a peaceful home. My oldest son was 16, daughter was 14, and my middle son was 12. They HATE me for leaving. They wouldn't leave their father....so in their eyes I abandonned them. I went thru absolute misery with them. They feel that their father can do no wrong. He still doesn't work, he lost his home and is currently in jail for violating probation... but he is still their hero. It is four years later and they are living with me and I am really trying to repair our mother/child relationships. I just pray that someday they will understand why I couldn't stay married to their father and forgive me for ruining their childhoods.... My wish is that they will once again say "I love you, Mom".
__________________ Melissa and Belle  |