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Originally Posted by ErinsWhitney  I'm really glad you made this point.
As a mom to 2 young boys, I sometimes find it a little offensive to see comments about kids being worse than dogs. I get that some people just aren't "kid people", I'm not either, but it makes going anywhere with them a little more stressful. My kids are 4 and 5, and they are well behaved. I get compliments from little old ladies about how good they are all the time.  BUT...they have bad days, and I can't control when and where they decide that they just are not having it, and have a total meltdown. There are consequences for a meltdown, but they don't always care at the time and there really isn't much I can do about it. Nothing is more offensive to me than getting judgemental glares over it, especially from people who do NOT have children and have no idea what it's like to be a mom who can go nowhere and do nothing without them. What other choice do I have? I can't afford to hire a babysitter every time I go somewhere, and I'm honestly not worried about putting out someone who finds kids annoying without knowing what it's like to have any themselves. They will get over it, and they will survive. I do try not to take my kids to really nice places, but sometimes people look their noses down at moms in McDonalds! That place is FOR kids, people! lol. My kids don't cause asthma attacks, so they can't be compared to animals. Sometimes it's hurtful to see comments and jabs made about moms with young kids who are having a bad day in public. Maybe the poor kid is tired, hungry and not feeling well? Maybe the kid is on the spectrum? Maybe they have some other personality disorder? You never know what the issue is. There certainly are those kids who have nothing but bad days and just need a good swift kick in hiney, but my kids are not those kids. I'm proud of how well behaved they are in public, most of the time. At home is another story.  |
Exactly! It's not always as easy as just leaving the restaurant... that's not always plausible. Now, obviously if a kid is like non stop banshee screaming or something, that's a different story.
Like, ya know how some people get sooo pissed when kids/babies cry on an airplane?? Sure, it's annoying, but I always feel terrible for the mother, because you know how hard she is trying and is embarrassed, and it's even worse when people are giving you dirty glares. The kid is probably tired, hungry, confused, it's something new they are going through in most cases (being on an airplane) and if a kid gets it in his head that he's upset, well, he's gonna cry! It's life. People must travel on planes with kids sometimes and there is no other way around it... it just doesn't bother me. I mean, yes it's an annoying sound, but I just put on my headphones, or if the kid is in front of me I'll try to help by making funny faces and making them laugh, haha.
I've learned to just forget about what other people think. For too long I would worry about things like that, now it's like if people are gonna judge, then oh well. Let them stare!