Originally Posted by FlDebra  I had to read through the thread again and I STILL DO NOT SEE anything remotely rude, nasty and mean -- especially nothing to warrant the hysterics of "crying and feeling like giving up."
The OP says she does not want to make it all about her yet, that is what the posts are all about -- HER feeling no support, HER crying all week, HER not being able to eat, HER having an upset stomach, HER not being able to leave the house, HER not being able to work, HER losing 10 pounds, and on and on and on...... Nothing about how this little yorkie girl is doing or what MIGHT be happening to her! Do you know how many posts the OP made without even mentioning her dog's name? THIS IS ALL ABOUT BEE! Her life and death!
No one here was mean, nasty and unsupportive. Just the opposite. People offered help, empathy, sympathy, researched links, offered experiences and advice. People genuinely tried to help. But they are told that they are mean, rude, most are nasty, they are laughing at you, and that they can "buzz off!" Who is the nasty one?
Could it be that you (the OP) had stealed yourself ahead of time for a lecture or rant on letting your girl get impregnanted by a dog 3 times her size? Could that preconceived notion of yours somehow colored your view of the responses actually given? Could you be feeling guilty and somehow projecting that? I don't know the answers -- just something to think about.
I find it amazing that you found 15 toy reproductive vets! I have never heard of even one billing themselves as that let alone 15 -- and not only did you find them, get them on the phone, but ALL of them gave you advice and a prognostication that Bee could carry this litter of unknown composition to term without the benefit of an exam or imagining? Amazing, indeed. Not saying I am doubting this -- just all sorts of amazed. If this is what you are basing your ignoring all of the advice from seasoned yorkie breeders with years of experience with real dogs, experts in the Yorkie breeding world -- I would reconsider. I have found their advice invaluable! They have saved the lives of many pups and momma dogs here. They genuinely care about yorkies! They can help!
If you found the other posts here so nastly, you may not like mine any better. I do hope you take it in the spirit offered though. I would help you in any way, research advice, contact experts, relay my limited expereinces, offer support for Bee in any way. I won't mollycoddle adults though. You have to be strong and stand up for your dog. She is counting on you to be mature and make the right decision to give her the best life possible. You can do it -- you know what should be done! |