OP, color me surprised at this reaction...
I was actually kind of proud of YT for their behavior on this thread. It wasn't attacking or accusatory and really very supportive compared to other "oops" threads. People didn't jump down your throat for bringing your pup around an intact male when you knew she was in heat or attack you for any reason. Most just stated their opinions of what they would do in your situation or told you that you should get another opinion from a more experienced source.
In my opinion, the thread was really quite tame until people started getting antsy when there wasn't an update. Everyone is concerned and worried about Bee, that's all.
Anyway, good luck with whatever you decide. Good thoughts coming Bee's way.