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Originally Posted by roseylovestosho  Thank you Nancy. I wasn't planning on going down the sexual harassment path--it's definitely not something that I'm willing to put myself through. I only have one older brother and never really went through much teasing in that respect, but growing up I did always end up being "one of the boys" as I always got along better with boys than with girls. Somewhere along the lines that changed however, and I think I may have just become more sensitive than I once was due to my own insecurities. I think I have stepped on their egos as you've said because one time when one of them tried embarrassing me in public I embarrassed him right back...and I'm pretty sure after that was when I stopped being invited to group study sessions/social activities. After that, I stopped being sarcastic right back and really nothing has changed except that the comments have gotten pretty harsh and I'm still isolated. As I mentioned a little earlier, this is only in a group setting when all 4 of them are together. Whenever I talk to any of them one on one they are extremely nice to me, even complimentary...which is why I am extremely confused by the situation. I know I have to grow a thicker skin, but I guess I just feel lonely not only having to do schoolwork all the time, but then not even really having any friends here that I can talk to...either way what I'm trying to say is that yes at first I thought it was just them making me out to be one of the guys, but when I started being excluded from group work is when I thought that the way they were treating me was a result of something else... |
Yes this can backfire if you want to be accepted by them, they probably are scared. Next time they tease you could agree with them. If they comment on your clothes, or say you dress funny, you could agree and say, "Yeah, it's never been my strength, I need some tips". Agreeing with someone who's teasing you, takes the fun out of it, I mean they do like to see how you'll react. The other guys are laughing just because they want to be accepted by each other. I think women have no idea how fragile men are, have mercy on them! I went to school with David Letterman, that guy could tease.