Advice or Agenda? IMO I know to some posters with over thousands of posts this may be an old rehashed topic but we are discussing the treatment of new members and how answers are intended and/or perceived by them, not by the older members who know the background of those responding so they interpret when reading their responses. Processing in their head, I know that poster they are usually kind they just got overheated in their response. To the new poster they only know they came for help and are all ready in a upset state of mind because their dog is having difficulties. If they are attacked it will only put them on the defensive even more and they may be resistant to hearing the message because of how it is stated. I have noticed many people on YT have their personal beliefs and agendas that sometimes overwhelm the message they are trying to deliver. Your beliefs have come about through a lot of experiences and soul searching that you yourself have done. You can not assume that others here have come to the same conclusions or have even had the opportunity to learn these life lessons or confront the obstacles that you have in order to form your opinion. Is it not more important that a dog gets the help and advice it needs or that your agenda is voiced? I have been haunted for days by the post by the woman who watched her new dog die of hypoglycaemia. I wanted to shout at her. As I sat trying to phrase what I wanted to say, I thought she is all ready heartbroken, she was not cruel just unaware, uneducated on how fragile Yorkies are. Would my venting have made me feel better, no, the dog better, no, the poor person who was all ready suffering no. So I just said that there was a lot of knowledge to be learned here if she wanted to get another dog. Making her wrong for not knowing would not have made anything better. So I can understand that those of you who have been on here longer are haunted by all the posts you have read, the people you have reached out to help. Please just remember when you were new and just learning about Yorkies and take a long look at what you post before you submit it. Will it help the situation or just hurt. I thank all the breeders and posters who offer advice and support to us new learners.
__________________ Carolyn  Buster Brown  
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