Lisa...I'm so sorry you are going through this...but I will tell you that my dh would say dumb things about our first yorkie Biscuit (get rid of that stupid dog etc) when he was not behaving the way dh thought he should..usually barking up a storm....but would sit with him on the couch etc. Well, Biscuit passed away last year and guess who cried ... yep, my dh (not as much as me, but still..) After seeing how devastated I was about losing my dog and how much I missed him, my dh suggested that we adopt another yorkie. That is how Trixie came into our lives. My dh knows that Trixie is a huge part of our life (I also suffer from anxiety/panic attacks) and knows that she has a wonderfully calming effect when I am not feeling so well. Our kids always joke that dad says he doesn't want a dog, but he really really loves her. They think he is just being "a tough guy". He even takes her for walks with our friends goldendoodle. (He will draw the line about the doggie stroller though).
I think you need to speak to your dh about how hurt your feelings are and really evaluate how he behaves with the dog. If he is kind towards your pup, then perhaps he is just being a "tough guy' too ....especially after he has a foot full of poop. |