I honestly think you need to do what you feel most comfortable with. Whether the scent or Mia's things are there or not, Sofia won't forget about her. I personally am comforted having things around of my girls. You don't ever forget the loss, and it makes me happy to have their things around. When we lost Kiwi, it was a big loss for Ashley and Gracie. We all needed a lot of extra cuddling together, and I tried to get them out of the house as much as possible. When Gracie died shortly thereafter, I brought Ashley over to her. I thought it would help her understand more why she was gone, but I don't know if it really helped. I think our babies mourn like we do, and just like us, they need love and support. When I lost our first Yorkie, my best friend's dog searched my house and our property whenever they visited for at least six months. I'm sure the scent was there, but I don't think Mishna ever forgot about Jolie when she visited. Just like with us, they need time to accept and cope with the loss. I definitely know you need to consider Sofia, but I don't know if it will make it easier for her; I suspect if you remove things, it will be more confusing for her. Just do what feels right for you and your baby. I am so heartbroken for you, and I wish there was something that I could say to make this easier for you. You and both of your little ones are in my prayers and my heart, and you have my deepest sympathy.
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