I think you need to evaluate how he acts towards you, not just this particular incident - although I do understand why you're questioning the type of man he is bc of it, trust me, I get it. I don't mean to get too personal and I am not wanting an answer to these questions, but just ask yourself - does he yell at you frequently? Does he constantly get mad over small things? Is he abusive verbally or mentally at all? Or is he just being inconsiderate? Being that she's provided you with so much joy and helped you tackle depression, I would think he'd be loving the dog as much as you do!
Like someone else said, not liking dogs doesn't make someone a bad person but if this is important to you then it's most definitely important that your spouse either has the same love for animals or can tolerate the downfalls of being a pet owner without throwing a tantrum. Now, I loooove my puppy more than anything. She is my BABY, but when she does something I'm not fond of (and yes, it's usually poop or pee) I always tell her "You're going to the shelter!" which I OBVIOUSLY do not mean or would ever consider, it's just my way to release that nano second of anger and calm down. Men tend to be angrier than women and won't have as much patience with this sort of thing. I know it's heartbreaking to you that he would say he doesn't care about your puppy - tell him how much she means to you. I'm sure he has something he loves that you don't share the same enthusiasm for, but you respect it bc you love him and wouldn't tell him that something he loves is of no value to you - compare it to that so he can truly grasp the situation and not just think you're being overly sensitive over a puppy.
I really do think he just lost his temper bc of a gross incident. I think most of us would say something we didn't mean in the same situation. The only concerning factor to me is that you felt he didn't care about her before this even happened. Good luck and I hope you and the pup get an apology soon. |