Cheryl -- A marriage is about "give and take." But, some things have to take priority over others. Each of us (husbands and wives) usually do give up a lot of things for one another. But, giving up something that you love (like a pet) is a little harder than many other things might be. I'm not sure that it is really fair for anyone to ask another to give up something they love. Having a puppy is a very healthy, normal thing. It's not a bad thing. And, it isn't usually something that causes a lot of problems in a family.
Again, I think you need to sit down with your husband and seriously tell him how much the puppy means to you ---and work out a plan together so that you might be able to keep the puppy and have peace in the family at the same time.
Sounds like you love your husband a lot. That's wonderful. But, I want you to have your puppy too. A lot of the problems you are having with the little pup now are only because he is so young. He will outgrow most of the behavior that irritates your husband. But you and your husband have to work together to give the poor little guy a chance.
Sounds like your husband isn't very fast at learning to love anything. All the more reason you need more time with your puppy.
I wish you the best. If the time ever comes that you need to get rid of the little puppy - be sure and put him in your husband's arms and with tears in your eyes, you say, "Here - you go find him a good home." I'm not sure that he could do that.
Again - good luck - I sure hope things work out.
Carol Jean |