[QuickSilver]

Let me say this another way: what you are describing with your fiancee is an extremely common dynamic between couples. The more you push, criticize, and cajole, the more she is going to passively resist. This probably drives you crazy, so you push harder, so she listens even less, etc.

This is an extremely difficult pattern to break out of. Here is what I suggest, though it is easier said than done: sit her down and say that you know she loves the dog and wants what's best for her. Acknowledge that this was her dog first, and she has a stronger bond than you do at the moment. Then ask her how you can work together to address training concerns. She may continue to drag her feet, but if you can consistently treat her as a partner in this situation, she will likely step up -- or acknowledge that you care about this more than she does, and let you take care of the training.

You guys may not agree on all the work necessary, but presumably you can both agree that it would be better to have the dog potty trained, and not choke on a treat.

For something like the rawhides, I would maybe stop by a pet store and get something else, like a bully stick, or a flossie. You can suggest this as a rawhide alternative. Again, if you present it as supportive and helpful, she will be more willing to listen.

Now, it sounds like your dog will probably guard these treats as well, so maybe they are not a good idea right now - but they present a much lower risk of choking.