"I told her today that when my schedule is a bit less demanding, we are getting a trainer. I don't TELL her many things but this one she isn't going to have a choice. I feel that if she isn't going to listen to me and work with me, a professional might make her listen a bit more and get her on the same page (and it will help me too where I may be making mistakes)"
It's doubtful that anyone can force her to listen to anything regarding her dog. She has to want to listen and do what needs to be done, and you can't take away her right to not do anything.
If you don't like this situation then walk away now, as it appears from this post, and many preceding it that you and your "fiance" have many many many issues with communication and don't see eye-to-eye and you are using the pup as a control tool. Couples counceling would be more beneficial and may save your relationship, before it completely unravels before your eyes. To continue to lecture her, and try to force things on her may just make her less and less willing to listen, even if she knows that it needs to be done and she can see that it's working. Before hiring a trainer that your fiance may be opposed to anyway (Not only are you telling her how to care and train her dog, but now this person that she doesn't know is coming into her home and again telling her what to do??). JMO |