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Originally Posted by JenniferLeigh  I didn't read the entire thread either, after about 2 pages of bickering I skipped ahead :P
Here are some of my thoughts...
You gf and you need to be on the same page when it comes to training and if she is resistant to this then I would suggest printing out relevant posts in this thread and perhaps some internet articles to show her.
You live in an apartment correct? Would it be possible to set up a pee pad or some kind of portable dog potty on your deck? If you catch him in the act you can easily put him on the pad, without having to go outside of the building. |
I agree 100%. We need to get on the same page, but she gets so defensive when I make a suggestion or say we need to try something new. I go as far as to explain the details - who said it, why, what, when, where...etc. She comes up with excuses or defensive remarks like "I've tried that" - but I know my fiance is impatient and I don't know that she tried anything for lengths of time.
Take today for instance, last night I told her about the NILIF method and how I don't open a door, give her food, throw a treat/toy or anything without some sort of request being met. She reluctantly agreed and today, she goes outside just opening the door (all three of them to go outside) and not following this operation.
I got up and walked outside after sitting there a bit frustrated and asked as she was coming in whether or not she was doing the NILIF method (knowing the answer) and she made her sit before coming back in the apartment. I explained, and not forcefully or a jerk, but this isn't something that can be done every once in a while...it has to be EVERY time by BOTH of us.
She also was throwing the toy around when I got home from my test....mind you I only had about 2 hours of sleep and I wanted to take a nap, yet she comes right next to me, sits down and wants to play with the dog. Not very nice because I told her I wanted a nap. Anyway, throwing the toy and the dog was barking and getting seriously wound up. I asked her to start mellowing the dog before throwing the toy to enforce less barking (neighbors should be accommodated, if we had a house in the country, I could care less) and it would help keep her from getting excited and going to the bathroom. I get "I know, I know" and a continuance of the toy throwing - and Bdog can go until YOU get tired.
One thing that is most frustrating on the fiance is this - I hear about how she's tried and she knows, but I don't ever hear any suggestions or propositions for solutions.
I know that was a vent, but this is what I am dealing with too.