Imperez I'm so sorry. I understand what your feeling though. I work full time, have been a full time student myself, with a son in college too, a younger teen and a younger one in elementary school. It can get very overwhelming when nobody will help.
You've gotta tuff love the ones who can and wont do anything. My 9-y/o is so used to me doing everything for him that the boy cannot even tie his own shoes. He wont stir his own chocolate milk, wont attempt to pour his own drinks, etc. This is where it gets worse.....If I fix him a plate of food, he will sit there. Half hour goes by and I ask him why he hasnt touched his food, he'll tell me I havent gotten him a fork yet!!! I've recently had a talk with him and told him acting helpless all of the time is hurting him in the longrun and I will not do the little things for him anymore!!!! He did good for few days but then one night I had to chase him into the bathroom to get a bath. I ran his water for him and left the room. Half hour later he is screaming for me to get his underwear, towel & something to wear. I told him "too bad, your not helpless". He froze his behind off for 30 seconds while he had to get his own towel, but thats life. He hasnt forgotten since. I explained to him that nobody gets me a towel, why should it be any different for him?
Its too easy for mom's to get taken advantage of and that in itself can start to wear you down. If someone leaves something out, hide it from them for X amount of time. If they wont clean up, you stop cooking yummie hot meals and toss them a frozen dinner. Hitting an older child in the wallet seems to help with this too.....cut off the gravy train until they can respect the home they are living in.
Take some time for yourself!!! Even to watch a movie. Lock the door so nobody can come in. I dont get to do that often, but when I do I'm in hog heaven. |