FlDebra always gives the best advice. Definitely get your thyroid meds checked, your dosage may need changing. The age of your kids suggest you may be perimenopausel and that will definitely throw your hormones out of whack. Hormones are ugly buggers.
If you want to talk to a professional but don't have the funds, you can check with your county health department, they sometimes have psychologists that work on a sliding scale, according to your income.
When my kids were at home, if they didn't clean up, I'd give fair warning and then their crap was fair game. I'd trash it. Literally. I'd get out the lawn and leaf bags and fill 'em up. What they didn't clean up was put out on the curb in trash bags and gone forever. They eventually learned. I'd do it while they were at school and they never knew when I was gonna strike. They just came home one day to a clean room and anguish. ADD just means they should forgive you quicker...LOL
Learn how to put yourself first. Letting DH leave large items in the living room is gonna lead to an episode of Hoarders. You deserve better for yourself.
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