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motomomma317 · 11-14-2010, 04:53 PM

Im about to turn 34 this month and I have a 13 year old son. We didn't plan on having kids so early but we were happy none the less. Why we are by no means rich we have voted that I be a stay at home mom. My son is very active and has a lot on his plate a lot of the time. Even from his young age till now he was always active and our main focus was on him. We did opt to have only one child due to the fact that early on my husband was active duty military and it was tuff to handle a job and a child alone while he was gone for several months at a time. It has gotten to be a bit easier now that he's out of the military and at a normal job m-f 9-5. But I will be totally honest with you, you will give up things in life you never expected to. I gladly give up things I don't need in order to give my son the things he loves. There is no greater love then the love you have for a child. I will admit its not always smooth but on those days that they reach out and hug you and tell you that your the best mommy in the world it wipes out all the dirty diapers you changed. Even better is when your teenage child hugs you in front of his friends and tells you how awesome you are and his friends laugh at him. (its a big deal trust me)
As for your husband allow him to be fully ready too. Pressuring him to have kids to early could hamper your marriage in the long run. He may not give you as much support if he's not ready. Trust me having a husband to pick up one Sat. morning breakfast per month is a god send.
Make a list of the top 10 things you want to do before you have kids and have him do the same. Then spend the next year trying to cross as many of those things of the list as you can. It will not only grow the bond between you but tackling the things that may arise in order to do those things may prepare you to work as a team in unfamilure situations.
As a side note, I think its very imp for you to prepare your body for having a baby. Eating well taking vitamins and having a full medical work up as well as a chat with your OBGYN. Allowing yourself a head start is a huge plus.

11-14-2010, 04:53 PM	#19
motomomma317 YT Addict Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: ohio Posts: 319	Im about to turn 34 this month and I have a 13 year old son. We didn't plan on having kids so early but we were happy none the less. Why we are by no means rich we have voted that I be a stay at home mom. My son is very active and has a lot on his plate a lot of the time. Even from his young age till now he was always active and our main focus was on him. We did opt to have only one child due to the fact that early on my husband was active duty military and it was tuff to handle a job and a child alone while he was gone for several months at a time. It has gotten to be a bit easier now that he's out of the military and at a normal job m-f 9-5. But I will be totally honest with you, you will give up things in life you never expected to. I gladly give up things I don't need in order to give my son the things he loves. There is no greater love then the love you have for a child. I will admit its not always smooth but on those days that they reach out and hug you and tell you that your the best mommy in the world it wipes out all the dirty diapers you changed. Even better is when your teenage child hugs you in front of his friends and tells you how awesome you are and his friends laugh at him. (its a big deal trust me) As for your husband allow him to be fully ready too. Pressuring him to have kids to early could hamper your marriage in the long run. He may not give you as much support if he's not ready. Trust me having a husband to pick up one Sat. morning breakfast per month is a god send. Make a list of the top 10 things you want to do before you have kids and have him do the same. Then spend the next year trying to cross as many of those things of the list as you can. It will not only grow the bond between you but tackling the things that may arise in order to do those things may prepare you to work as a team in unfamilure situations. As a side note, I think its very imp for you to prepare your body for having a baby. Eating well taking vitamins and having a full medical work up as well as a chat with your OBGYN. Allowing yourself a head start is a huge plus.