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Originally Posted by Rhetts_mama  That's a tough one. It sounds as if he's feeling pushed out of pnut's life or as if his input is being disregarded. It's really easy for the one who's doing most of the care to default to making most of the decisions (be it with pets or kids). That in turn makes the other partner pull back more and give even less care.
I'd say sit down and talk with him about it. On the food matter, for instance, you could go over why you've chosen the food you have- the health benefits, the actual cost per feeding versus a cheaper food, etc. Ask him to do some research on different brands of food and see what he comes up with. Then here is the important part- be willing to give it a try. Everyone wants to feel like their contribution matters, so over ruling him out of hand is bound to cause resentment.
As for the training, tell him why you want him to be involved. Ask for his help finding a trainer you are both comfortable with.
Let him know that you want him to take a more active role in Pnut's life. Then back up and let him do it. Is he going to do things differently than you would? Of course, but that doesn't make it wrong. Who knows, he may actually come up with something that works out better.
Good luck. |
Thats really good advice. thank you. I guess i should be happy that he loves pnut as muchas i do. I would hate it if he didnt want to be part of his life. Im going to sit down with him tonight and talk to him. I will let you know how it turns out. hehe