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Originally Posted by cally930  Sometimes people tend to ask a question - and in return - want an answer to that question - that is all. What I have found on this forum is that sometimes people go beyond just answering the question - and giving an unsolicited opinion. Sometimes (I do mean sometimes) some older ones (not age) tend to act as if this is the "good old boys club" and make the newbies feel like they have to earn their place on this forum. Sometimes, people on here forget their manners.
I mean......... if I were in front of you - would you answer me the same way? A little bit of "putting the brain in gear before you put your words in motion" would help. And if you have been hearing about the meanness so much - well don't you think that it is true and that some people are offended? This should be a place where people are not afraid to ask a question - and you know........... it is. That is all.[/QUOTE]
It also should be a place where those people who tend to answer the questions that are asked still continue to do so in the face of being called meanies and bullies. Those meanies and bullies are the ones who are up at 3 AM with an owner in need or who will get on the phone and offer support. I've been there and some of the meanest people on here were RIGHT THERE when Barney had life threatening pancreatitis or when Daisy was hobbling on one leg or when Teddy had a seizure. I have also been on the other side of it - consoling someone who lost their dog, giving home cooked diet information, taking time out of my busy day to write a post or when asked make a phone call to a complete stranger just to give an ear or a shoulder. And sometimes all of those efforts go compeletely unnoticed or unappreciated. But, the people who may seem mean may be one of the best resources when you find you may need it.... Just saying... |
Good post!
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Originally Posted by boopster It may also be that they come off sounding harsh because they care so much about their topic. I had someone contact me privately about breeders, and on first reading I thought they sounded a little harsh. On second reading, though, I realized that they had very strong feelings on the subject and cared enough to try to help me avoid potentially tragic decisions. And what they said was absolutely right.
Come to think of it, I need to go back and thank that person because I did take her advice to heart and it helped influence the decision I made when choosing my puppy. |
That's the way I feel is that people care enough and are passionate enough and for some that comes across as bluntness, but it comes from a good place!