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Originally Posted by edwardsmom  One more thing I forgot another major reason is that I am very scared of the actual procedure when I have to give birth! Very very very scared! |
Hon, that is a cake walk... seriously. I'd rather give birth than have a all bladder attack or an ear ache, both of which are a continuous relentless pain with no end. Labor and childbirth..god built in pauses where you can catch your breath. That makes all the difference in the world. If it were that bad, women wouldn't do it over and over and over. (Not that it is so easy a man would do it..)
This you must remember on the subject of kids.. you said that you don't get to take a break until the kids are older and on their own. That is wrong. From the time they are born until you or they die, hopefully you first. THERE IS NO BREAK!!!! You worry about the baby stuff, the school stuff, they learn to drive, get them through that and the drugs and the wrong crowds, and please god don't let them fall for the wrong person or a stranger hurt them, please don't let their heart get broken by someone who cares for them less than you. And their hearts will get broken and your heart will hurt every bit as much as theirs does. They will either marry and you'll spend everyday praying that their marriage is good and happy and dreading for the day the divorce shoe may drop or they will not find the right person and be lonely even though they are successful in every other aspect of their life and your heart hurts for them in that way just as it did when they were 6 and someone called them a bad name and they cried. Doesn't matter if they are 6 or 60 THERE IS NO BREAK!!!
We had a drunk one night that parked his car and passed out behind the wheel in a auto dealer's lot, figured we wouldn't see him in there. We didn't arrest him, but called his father to come get him. He was 67. His dad came and got him, he was about 89years old. THERE IS NO BREAK!!!
So, don't think for a minute that you raise them for 18-20 years and you are done and walk away. yeah, labor is nuthin'